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Taking Back Control of My Life-40 Days at a Time

Taking Back Control of My Life-40 Days at a Time

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. It was also Ash Wednesday for millions of Christians around the world. This holy day of observance marks the start of Lent-40 days of giving up luxuries, like sugar and meat. You pray, fast and get ready to celebrate the Resurrection […]

60 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Care

60 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Care

The picture above was sent to me a few months ago by my sister. It’s of my young nephew inside his cubby at school. His teacher sent the picture to my sister and she knew what it meant. This picture says 1,000 words- two of […]

Almost There

Almost There

 

        I keep this taped to my lap top,                                        as a daily reminder.

My site looks different, but the content is the same (and expanding!)

A few weeks ago, I was debating what to do with my blog. It’s something I really like to do, but felt limited by the semi healthy housewife name.  Last year around this time, I wracked my brain to come up with a blog name I liked and fit my interests. I landed on semi healthy housewife because that’s what I was. However, some of the things I wanted to write about didn’t fit into the semi healthy housewife theme.  Currently, I don’t want to write just about losing weight. There’s so much more going on in my life that I don’t want that to be the focus. Plus, I was feeling immense pressure to preform and that just isn’t me.

I’m still going to write about my infertility, as well as my journey of getting fit.  I’ll still post meals and  workouts I complete, as well my thoughts/feelings and current status as an infertile woman.

However, I’m going to write more about issues that affect me daily, like mental health and women’s issues, as well as current events.

And the truth is: I’m 34 years old and I have no idea who I am.

For years, I lived under a mask of trying to present a person who had it together. I smiled, I laughed, I was outgoing. And I was exhausted. My brain worked overtime to try to balance my outward persona and my inner one. I’ve lived most of my life parading around as someone else. I kept a close lid on my true identify for fear that I would alienate people I loved from my life. The truth is, I knew who I was. Broken, damaged and barely hanging on.

Anyone who is familiar with this set up, knows it doesn’t last forever. After a break down, I headed to therapy to try to pick up the pieces and live my life.  After a year working with a wonderful therapist, I’ve come to terms with my past (for the most part). Now it’s time to start finding out who I am and focusing on a future that isn’t catastrophic (oh, how my brain works.)

Getting Here

The new website idea was a much easier process for me this time around.

For one, the new name, Almost There, came from a fortune cookie.  It was something that perfectly described where I am in my life: Almost there. It was an effortless experience. I didn’t need to make a pros/cons list or overthink it (something I’m trying to work on daily.)

I look forward to sharing more with you about the ups and downs of my life, as well as stories and adventures I encounter along the way.

I’ll leave you with one of my new favorite quotes, by one of my new favorite authors.

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.  Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.  Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”  Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Thankful November Day 30

Thankful November Day 30

  I end my month of thankfulness with something I’m eternally thankful for: my husband, Jim. I’ll start off with this thought: marriage is HARD.  While I always wanted to get married, I must admit that I had the idealized vision of marriage. The Hollywood […]

Thankful November Day 22

“I’m not making a decision until I talk to Theresa,” I stated definitively to my husband as I stood in the kitchen, feet firmly planted on the ground, arms tightly crossed against my body. “You can’t let your therapist make decisions for you,” he told […]

Thankful November Day 16

Alone Time

I love spending time with my husband, family and friends. It’s great to catch up, have a few laughs and have great discussions.

Nevertheless, I need my alone time. I crave it. Time spent alone helps me to recover from my day at work, as well as to focus on my interests. I love to write and read, which are solitary activities.  When I write, I like to listen to music to fit my mood. When I have my alone time, I can turn up the music and let it guide me while being creative. Also, sometimes I’ll put on certain songs that allow me to tap into deeper feelings/memories. With this, I’ll cry and it’s such a freeing release to me. Words and feelings flow and I’m able to heal and/or discover something new.

However, it’s not something a husband wants to witness. One time I was in our bedroom, writing, crying and feeling my feelings. Jim walked in on me and was upset to see me in such a state. I tried to explain it’s part of my process, and while I think he understood, he ended up checking on me for the rest of the evening.

When I’m not feeling in the creative mood, I’ll watch Hulu or Netflix to catch up my shows. There’s only a handful of shows that we watch together, so when I have time to myself, I take advantage of the remote.

Tonight, my husband has a professional development meeting for work. I was excited to spend the evening alone, with time to do what I want to do with no interruptions.  I did some writing, some cleaning and some reading. I enjoy my moments of solitude and I’m thankful for that time to spend on myself.

My evening

Thankful November: Days 10-13

I had a busy weekend with family, which is one important thing I am thankful for, and not just in November.  Since my weekend consisted of a whole lot of time with my siblings, I made them what I was thankful for these past few […]

Thankful November- Day 7

Thankful November- Day 7

Thankful November- Day 7 Today was one of those days…and it’s only Tuesday. I didn’t sleep well last night, so the thought of coming home and napping seemed delightful. I have baskets in just about every room in my house, filled with soft blankets, ready […]

Thankful November- Day 6

Thankful November- Day 6

Last night, I prepped my veggies and fruit for the week. I don’t always do this each week, but when I do I’m thankful because it makes the week go by much smoother! I can easily pull some carrot sticks for my lunch and add some broccoli to my omelets.

My husband and I sit down each week and make a list of meals we want for the week. When meat is on sale, I buy in bulk and use my food saver to preportion the meat for meals throughout the month. The food saver is great because it vacuum seals the bag, making it easier to store more items in the freezer. I just did this last week, so we are good on meat for a while, especially since we are trying to focus more on meatless meals.

For fruits and veggies, I buy what’s in season. I don’t just do this for the cost benefits, but because fruit that is in season tastes so much better, in my opinion. I’m spoiled when it comes to fruit because I live close to an orchard that grows berries in the summer and has apples ready to be picked in the fall. I can taste the difference between grocery store berries and orchard berries, so when the weather starts getting colder, I opt for apples and oranges. I also opt for frozen vegetables in the fall since we don’t have too many options for fresh local veggies.

I’m thankful for the time I take to meal prep, so I have healthy food choices ready to go in our refrigerator.  It makes me feel more in control and it’s a great way to start the week!

Thankful November-Days 4 & 5

Thankful November-Days 4 & 5

  Weekends and Self-Care Yesterday was a busy day, so I missed out on posting my Day 4 for Thankful November. So, I decided to combine the two into something I’m doubly thankful for: the weekend! I love my job, but there’s just something about […]